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Risk: What Makes It Worth It?

RISK… Why is it so scary to take the risk and be free of what is overwhelming or terrifying to you – being known as who you really are and all that has happened to you? Loss of control.  Even in your scariest moments, you still have the comfort of knowing what a day holds. Risk removes the ability to know the outcome. To be in control is everything. You don’t ever again want to […]

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Good Can Come Out of MY Past?

When you consider your past, do you ever ask yourself, God, and others what good can come from it? I have. I have often wondered, “Lord, what was all THAT about? What good are you going to bring from THAT?” It is a normal question as most of us have pasts that are at the very least messy, if not a complete demolition zone of hurt, anger, pain, bitterness, frustration, abuse, and lies. We look […]

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“What If We Were Real?”

Being authentic is so very hard when your life seems out of control and you have been intimately wounded by other people’s words or actions. Sharing your chaos feels terrifying. You cannot even begin to see past this current chaos to believe that if you share it with a safe OTHER, you will not only heal your heart, but increase your ability to see tomorrow and the future in light of God’s goodness FOR you. […]

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Dear, Younger Me

Have you ever thought what might be different in your past if you could go back and sit down with the younger you? Not in a terrible regretful, self-pity sort of way, but in a “How could it have changed the anger or fear or brokenness you felt?,” kind of restorative, life-giving way. Our past had so many minefields. Some of what others did or said to us. Some of what we did or said […]

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Let Yourself Grieve What Was Lost

“The abused child has much to mourn. She grieves the loss of the family she would have wanted, and the safe, warm love that family is supposed to represent. She grieves lost hopes, lost safety, lost innocence. She grieves her childhood. And she grieves the view of the world as a safe place.” “Secret Survivors” by E. Sue Blume This quote is so powerful to me. So many verbal, emotional, and/or sexual abuse survivors have […]

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