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6 Truths for When You Feel Overwhelmed and “Too Broken”

Anne woke up and thought through her day and sighed. “Would anyone even care if I stayed in bed all day? It’s not like I really make a difference in anyone’s life. I usually just mess things up. I say all the wrong things and do all the wrong things. I am a terrible mom. If my friends knew what I was thinking half the time, they would think I was crazy. Why can’t I […]

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Gaslighting: Defined & Defeated

I have recently had a name put to what I just thought were lies I was believing about who I was and what I was capable of that flowed from my past abuse. It is called gaslighting. It flows from a movie in the 1940’s where a man did something in the attic to the lights in the house so they would dim from time to time. When his wife would ask him if he […]

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Collateral Damage

I wrote last week about my husband being my defender as the Lord enabled him to be. I mentioned that my husband was often misunderstood in His strong defense of me, since only he and I knew why he was doing it. My husband was doing a loving, noble thing. I let him and yet knew that there were moments when he broke and roared much too loudly, which scared me. It also scared my […]

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The Craving To Be “Normal”

As you go through each day, do you ever observe the ease with which others do what you find extremely hard to do – like marriage, parenting, conversations, work? When they speak of the intimacy in their marriage and the closeness with their husbands they have and enjoy, are you jealous? When you see the patience with which they parent a screaming child or handle a disagreement, are you envious? When others are able to […]

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Forgiveness is…

Today’s thoughts are on forgiveness. This is a very delicate subject in the life of an abuse survivor. So I wanted to explore it by turning it around and examining it from many perspectives. First, let’s define forgiveness itself. Forgiveness is the offer of willingly setting aside the just punishment someone is due for an offense or debt against you. When we look at the word of God, we see that forgiveness is often preceded […]

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Good Enough?

Every day many of us wake up with that niggling feeling that we are really not good enough or don’t measure up to OTHERS standards for us. Sometimes we don’t measure up to our OWN standards. It follows us through our day and makes us think we must try harder or look for something else or something more to change this status. If that isn’t enough, this stream of thought runs over into what we […]

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