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How Losing Can Be Good

When we think of loss, we often think of it in terms of being a negative thing or an unwanted result. Yet considering the hurts of the past, wouldn’t it be awesome to lose what kept us in pain, bound to the past, unable to live forward as the Lord created us to as His daughters – with confidence to confront darkness, extending grace instead of judgment, and knowing her worth is based on what […]

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Let Yourself Grieve What Was Lost

“The abused child has much to mourn. She grieves the loss of the family she would have wanted, and the safe, warm love that family is supposed to represent. She grieves lost hopes, lost safety, lost innocence. She grieves her childhood. And she grieves the view of the world as a safe place.” “Secret Survivors” by E. Sue Blume This quote is so powerful to me. So many verbal, emotional, and/or sexual abuse survivors have […]

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What IS it I offer You at Unchanging God Changing You?

I often say I want to help you walk forward with confidence in Christ, without fear. What does that look like when it is happening in YOUR life? I am working with a Christian Message Coach. She asked me a question the other day that got me thinking. She asked me what behavior changes occur when the thing the Lord has taught me is applied and assimilated into other’s lives? In other words, “What changes […]

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Gaslighting: Defined & Defeated

I have recently had a name put to what I just thought were lies I was believing about who I was and what I was capable of that flowed from my past abuse. It is called gaslighting. It flows from a movie in the 1940’s where a man did something in the attic to the lights in the house so they would dim from time to time. When his wife would ask him if he […]

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A River Runs Through Me

For a few months now I have written about what I have learned or discovered in life as I approach 50. My life feels like a river flowing down a mountain stream. Shaped by the rush of time and rocks and obstacles. The Lord has created ways for me to learn who He is and who I am in Him on this river. Many times I capsized and thought I was drowning. Other times I […]

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