It Is Not YOUR Fault!

“You are stupid.” “You are ugly.” “You are worthless.” “You are bad.” “You asked for it.” “You deserve this.” These and thousands of other things have been said to you. They were said not just once in passing, but repeated..and repeated…and repeated. You have believed them because those with authority and power over you have always stated them as facts. The coldness or the anger in which they were said, made you feel powerless, unable […]

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If You Could Tell The Younger You What You Know Now

Have you ever thought what might be different in your past if you could go back and sit down with the younger you? Not in a terrible regretful, self-pity sort of way, but in a “How could it have changed the anger or fear or brokenness you felt?,” kind of restorative, life-giving way. Our past had so many minefields. Some of what others did or said to us. Some of what we did or said […]

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I Think People Are Mad At Me But They Are Not

Fear of not having my ideas be needed or wanted – believing the lie that what I have to offer is already insignificant before I even get started, so I come out of the box defending it and sensitive to any hints of it not being received well or embraced as worthy of other people’s time and attention. Apologizing in case they do reject my words. Needing others to validate my thoughts and ideas. Adjusting […]

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We Are Such A Plastic Family

When my daughter was around 14, she made a statement in response to something I was trying to explain about why we did what we did in our family. She said, “Mom, we are such a plastic family.” I was was confused by her words. She went on to explain that we were just so stiff and uptight. This is not how “real” families did stuff. Why can’t we live like other families? What’s wrong […]

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Women Encountering Jesus

As I have been sharing how the Lord is working in my life, I wanted to return to a newsletter article I wrote last year that speaks to how encounters with the living God, no matter where He enters our story, can change our lives, moving us forward in a direction we would never have imagined. I hope you find it encouraging to where you are as the Lord uses it to challenge, strengthen, and […]

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