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When Will Past Hurt and My Broken Responses To It Stop Stealing My Joy?

Bad crap happens to us. It hurts. We chose to NOT BELIEVE God’s solutions for our hurt.  We did our best, but the outcome was loss – financial, spiritual, relational, emotional. We realized something was wrong, but had no idea how to change or make different choices. Life crashed on. Other people’s lives don’t seem to have the cracks, bumps, and bruises that we do. We find ourselves comparing and feeling like something was stolen […]

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When “What ifs” and “Whys” Try to Steal Your Hope

After a jarring or difficult event has happened in your life, have you ever found yourself asking, “What if I or someone else hadn’t ____________ then ______________ would have happened instead?” And the “instead” is always a better or more favorable outcome in your way of thinking. This mental game leads us around the board of life to “Why” every time. Why didn’t I do this instead of that? Why didn’t I think of _______________ […]

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Letting Down Your Guard

Do you: get anxious in new environments? find it hard to relax around new people? not trust your kids to be safe when they aren’t with you? control how close you let your spouse get when it comes to any signs of affection? get angry when your boundaries are threatened in any way? get suspicious of other’s intentions when complimented or they do a favor? YES?! You are what I call a “control freak”. Don’t […]

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Overcoming Our Past

So many of us are trying to overcome our past. We are constantly asking “what if?” questions. As if we could actually make the past different by re-examining every word spoken and deed done. I think it is why we are obsessed with time travel movies – “Back to the Future” (I, II III), “The Time Traveler’s Wife”, “Source Code”. Everyone going back to try to fix something in the past to make the future […]

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Approval of Others

I had my blog written on overcoming the need to have the approval of others and how the Word speaks to it. I started writing it THREE days ago and here I sit the day before, rewriting the whole thing, because I realized I cared too much about what you, my reader, would think. Things like this ran through my mind: Is what I am writing a good topic? Will anyone follow my logic? What […]

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