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Let Yourself Grieve What Was Lost

“The abused child has much to mourn. She grieves the loss of the family she would have wanted, and the safe, warm love that family is supposed to represent. She grieves lost hopes, lost safety, lost innocence. She grieves her childhood. And she grieves the view of the world as a safe place.” “Secret Survivors” by E. Sue Blume This quote is so powerful to me. So many verbal, emotional, and/or sexual abuse survivors have […]

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We Are Such A Plastic Family

When my daughter was around 14, she made a statement in response to something I was trying to explain about why we did what we did in our family. She said, “Mom, we are such a plastic family.” I was was confused by her words. She went on to explain that we were just so stiff and uptight. This is not how “real” families did stuff. Why can’t we live like other families? What’s wrong […]

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Collateral Damage

I wrote last week about my husband being my defender as the Lord enabled him to be. I mentioned that my husband was often misunderstood in His strong defense of me, since only he and I knew why he was doing it. My husband was doing a loving, noble thing. I let him and yet knew that there were moments when he broke and roared much too loudly, which scared me. It also scared my […]

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Things to Be Thankful for When Life is Not Perfect

I woke up this morning wondering what to write to encourage you this week as you head into the season of celebrations with family and friends and co-workers, baking and travel. I am not going home since my husband is lowest on the totem pole of seniority at his work for taking the day after Thanksgiving off, combined with the reality that my closest family is a 10 hour drive one way. This is hard […]

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