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Risk: What Makes It Worth It?

RISK… Why is it so scary to take the risk and be free of what is overwhelming or terrifying to you – being known as who you really are and all that has happened to you? Loss of control.  Even in your scariest moments, you still have the comfort of knowing what a day holds. Risk removes the ability to know the outcome. To be in control is everything. You don’t ever again want to […]

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How Can Losing Be Good?

When we think of loss, we often think of it in terms of being a negative thing or an unwanted result. Yet considering the hurts of the past, wouldn’t it be awesome to lose what kept us in pain, bound to the past, unable to live forward as the Lord created us to as His daughters – with confidence to confront darkness, extending grace instead of judgment, and knowing her worth is based on what […]

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We Are Such A Plastic Family

When my daughter was around 14, she made a statement in response to something I was trying to explain about why we did what we did in our family. She said, “Mom, we are such a plastic family.” I was was confused by her words. She went on to explain that we were just so stiff and uptight. This is not how “real” families did stuff. Why can’t we live like other families? What’s wrong […]

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Gaslighting: Defined & Defeated

I have recently had a name put to what I just thought were lies I was believing about who I was and what I was capable of that flowed from my past abuse. It is called gaslighting. It flows from a movie in the 1940’s where a man did something in the attic to the lights in the house so they would dim from time to time. When his wife would ask him if he […]

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Letting Down Your Guard

Do you: get anxious in new environments? find it hard to relax around new people? not trust your kids to be safe when they aren’t with you? control how close you let your spouse get when it comes to any signs of affection? get angry when your boundaries are threatened in any way? get suspicious of other’s intentions when complimented or they do a favor? YES?! You are what I call a “control freak”. Don’t […]

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Is Faith the Answer?

I have been involved in a few discussions on sexual abuse. I shared my healing journey there and what I am doing now to help women with sexual abuse in their past. A few have told me faith is not the answer.  My journey has led me to say that Jesus is the reason I am whole and functioning. He is the reason I now see God’s role in my salvation and life after with […]

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