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What Happens When We Begin to Find Our Identity, Purpose, and Voice?

What happens when we begin to really believe who we are in Christ, forgive those who hurt us, find safe community, and learn to be truly authentic – growing BEYOND our wounds? For some it is helping others who are where they have once been or speaking up for those who have no voice in society. It has looked different for each woman I know who is learning to grow beyond her wounds. Some women […]

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Risk: What Makes It Worth It?

RISK… Why is it so scary to take the risk and be free of what is overwhelming or terrifying to you – being known as who you really are and all that has happened to you? Loss of control.  Even in your scariest moments, you still have the comfort of knowing what a day holds. Risk removes the ability to know the outcome. To be in control is everything. You don’t ever again want to […]

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If You Could Tell The Younger You What You Know Now

Have you ever thought what might be different in your past if you could go back and sit down with the younger you? Not in a terrible regretful, self-pity sort of way, but in a “How could it have changed the anger or fear or brokenness you felt?,” kind of restorative, life-giving way. Our past had so many minefields. Some of what others did or said to us. Some of what we did or said […]

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The Gains That Can Come From Releasing What Holds You to the Past

On the journey from brokenness to wholeness, chaos to clarity, fear to courage, unbelief to trust, we must choose to lay down the idols that “comfort” us and the lies that we believe about God, ourselves, and others. What we gain in the process is worth the risk. I want to share with you what I have gained in 3 different areas, how it has changed my life, enabling me to leave the past in […]

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Let Yourself Grieve What Was Lost

“The abused child has much to mourn. She grieves the loss of the family she would have wanted, and the safe, warm love that family is supposed to represent. She grieves lost hopes, lost safety, lost innocence. She grieves her childhood. And she grieves the view of the world as a safe place.” “Secret Survivors” by E. Sue Blume This quote is so powerful to me. So many verbal, emotional, and/or sexual abuse survivors have […]

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I Think People Are Mad At Me But They Are Not

Fear of not having my ideas be needed or wanted – believing the lie that what I have to offer is already insignificant before I even get started, so I come out of the box defending it and sensitive to any hints of it not being received well or embraced as worthy of other people’s time and attention. Apologizing in case they do reject my words. Needing others to validate my thoughts and ideas. Adjusting […]

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