It Is Not YOUR Fault!

“You are stupid.” “You are ugly.” “You are worthless.” “You are bad.” “You asked for it.” “You deserve this.” These and thousands of other things have been said to you. They were said not just once in passing, but repeated..and repeated…and repeated. You have believed them because those with authority and power over you have always stated them as facts. The coldness or the anger in which they were said, made you feel powerless, unable […]

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Risk: What Makes It Worth It?

RISK… Why is it so scary to take the risk and be free of what is overwhelming or terrifying to you – being known as who you really are and all that has happened to you? Loss of control.  Even in your scariest moments, you still have the comfort of knowing what a day holds. Risk removes the ability to know the outcome. To be in control is everything. You don’t ever again want to […]

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How Do You Move from Knowing Stuff to Life-Changing Belief?

There is a challenge that often comes with using the Word of God in the healing process – the leap from knowing stuff in your head to embracing it with your heart. It is just a bunch of facts that get splattered against a wall if you do not really BELIEVE what you are applying to your wounds – past and present. So how do you know if you really BELIEVE something, and how do […]

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The Gains That Can Come From Releasing What Holds You to the Past

On the journey from brokenness to wholeness, chaos to clarity, fear to courage, unbelief to trust, we must choose to lay down the idols that “comfort” us and the lies that we believe about God, ourselves, and others. What we gain in the process is worth the risk. I want to share with you what I have gained in 3 different areas, how it has changed my life, enabling me to leave the past in […]

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Boundaries: What To Do When Others Push Back Against the New You

Eleven years ago, when I surrendered bitterness to the Lord and forgave the one who hurt me, I gained a new confidence in God and myself. It made me want to be more transparent and open with my faults and victories. I became passionate about grace and truth in balance – the Gospel. I was convinced that He was Life, Living Water, Bread from Heaven, My Rock and the Light. He knew every one of […]

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Let Yourself Grieve What Was Lost

“The abused child has much to mourn. She grieves the loss of the family she would have wanted, and the safe, warm love that family is supposed to represent. She grieves lost hopes, lost safety, lost innocence. She grieves her childhood. And she grieves the view of the world as a safe place.” “Secret Survivors” by E. Sue Blume This quote is so powerful to me. So many verbal, emotional, and/or sexual abuse survivors have […]

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