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When Will Past Hurt and My Broken Responses To It Stop Stealing My Joy?

Bad crap happens to us. It hurts. We chose to NOT BELIEVE God’s solutions for our hurt.  We did our best, but the outcome was loss – financial, spiritual, relational, emotional. We realized something was wrong, but had no idea how to change or make different choices. Life crashed on. Other people’s lives don’t seem to have the cracks, bumps, and bruises that we do. We find ourselves comparing and feeling like something was stolen […]

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Yes, Roadblocks are Normal On the Road to Freedom

You are moving along, smashing the lies of the past, embracing God’s truth, learning to create boundaries, finding your voice, learning who He is and who you are in Him. You have overcome fears with steps of faith, forgiven those who have hurt you, and are beginning to trust the Lord with the details and relationships in your life. And then…everything comes to a screeching halt. What happened? What is this thing in the road? […]

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We Are Such A Plastic Family

When my daughter was around 14, she made a statement in response to something I was trying to explain about why we did what we did in our family. She said, “Mom, we are such a plastic family.” I was was confused by her words. She went on to explain that we were just so stiff and uptight. This is not how “real” families did stuff. Why can’t we live like other families? What’s wrong […]

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Collateral Damage

I wrote last week about my husband being my defender as the Lord enabled him to be. I mentioned that my husband was often misunderstood in His strong defense of me, since only he and I knew why he was doing it. My husband was doing a loving, noble thing. I let him and yet knew that there were moments when he broke and roared much too loudly, which scared me. It also scared my […]

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His Peace for Your Storm

Peace. Is Not… …the absence of conflict …something gotten by always agreeing …gotten by sweeping the truth under the carpet …found in people, things, or places on earth …where rainbows and fairy tales and princes on white horses rescue their princesses …where only sunny days, mountain views, or bubbling brooks fill our days Face down on the kitchen floor with your heart poured out to God – your face and the floor wet with your […]

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Forgiveness is…

Today’s thoughts are on forgiveness. This is a very delicate subject in the life of an abuse survivor. So I wanted to explore it by turning it around and examining it from many perspectives. First, let’s define forgiveness itself. Forgiveness is the offer of willingly setting aside the just punishment someone is due for an offense or debt against you. When we look at the word of God, we see that forgiveness is often preceded […]

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