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“Soul Wounds”

Broken words others have spoken to us. Broken words we say to ourselves. They can be true, partly true, or totally false. They have power over us and they steal power from us. They can create shame that drives us into darkness, where doubt, discouragement, and death of our soul lives.  There is only One who can overcome such darkness because His name is Light, Truth, and Healer. What are these words? What are their […]

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How Can Losing Be Good?

When we think of loss, we often think of it in terms of being a negative thing or an unwanted result. Yet considering the hurts of the past, wouldn’t it be awesome to lose what kept us in pain, bound to the past, unable to live forward as the Lord created us to as His daughters – with confidence to confront darkness, extending grace instead of judgment, and knowing her worth is based on what […]

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Let Yourself Grieve What Was Lost

“The abused child has much to mourn. She grieves the loss of the family she would have wanted, and the safe, warm love that family is supposed to represent. She grieves lost hopes, lost safety, lost innocence. She grieves her childhood. And she grieves the view of the world as a safe place.” “Secret Survivors” by E. Sue Blume This quote is so powerful to me. So many verbal, emotional, and/or sexual abuse survivors have […]

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I Think People Are Mad At Me But They Are Not

Fear of not having my ideas be needed or wanted – believing the lie that what I have to offer is already insignificant before I even get started, so I come out of the box defending it and sensitive to any hints of it not being received well or embraced as worthy of other people’s time and attention. Apologizing in case they do reject my words. Needing others to validate my thoughts and ideas. Adjusting […]

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What if the Problem is Me?

“We delude ourselves into thinking that if we had a different job, mate, parents, or children, or if we could only move to a different neighborhood or a different town, things would change for the better. That if we had a different figure, body type, or metabolic rate, we would at last be happy. Real growth begins when we are willing to see that all these circumstances are only externals. Real healing begins when we […]

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Gaslighting: Defined & Defeated

I have recently had a name put to what I just thought were lies I was believing about who I was and what I was capable of that flowed from my past abuse. It is called gaslighting. It flows from a movie in the 1940’s where a man did something in the attic to the lights in the house so they would dim from time to time. When his wife would ask him if he […]

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